The Beginning of My Grief Story
Hi, my name is Felicia. My grief story begins in California…
I grew up as an only child in So-Cal with my mom and just graduated high school.
At 18 years old, during one of my final exams in my first semester in college, my mom died. She was my best friend. She was a single mother and raised me all by herself. My whole world revolved around her, and now it was broken.
I was in a really dark place and didn’t know how to move forward, but had the support from my high school boyfriend.
Several months had passed, and the burden of California childhood memories weighed heavily on me. It was all too much… so I moved to Houston.
The first 5 years in Houston I focused on my degree and working full time, and my high school boyfriend and I got married, but I still struggled every day with anxiety and depression.
I had many ups and downs. I kept going on and off antidepressants. I didn’t know what was wrong with me or who to talk to. Eventually (about 10 years after my mom died), my husband and I decided to start a family.
Shortly after I had my first baby, a daughter, I became deeply depressed and medication wasn’t helping anymore.
The first year was tough, but the second year was even worse for me. I was officially stuck, so my family physician recommended therapy.
After 9 months of therapy, I finally had my AHA! moment. 12 years after my moms death I came to realize I was still grieving and was suffering from unresolved grief. My therapist recommended the grief recovery handbook.
She didn’t really know how to guide me through it, so I guided myself. I uncovered for the first time why I was experiencing all of these complicated emotions for the past 12 years and how to overcome them. I also discovered that my little girl was a huge grief trigger for me and that I was constantly reminded of my mom while learning how to raise her.
Using the grief recovery handbook, I took over my grief in 3 months.
I learned that our culture shuns grievers… which is the biggest reason why I felt so alone in my grief.
I learned that I all of the things I was using to cope were never going to help.
I learned how to complete my relationship with my mom and start a new one with her.
I learned how to recognize my grief triggers and get through them in a healthy way.
I learned that writing through your grief is one of the most powerful tools to overcome your grief.
These are all the things I want to help other grievers accomplish in order to turn their grief journey in a new direction and overcome the debilitating pain from grief.
Over the past two years I’ve spent countless hours researching grief topics, reading grief books, listening to grief stories, and facilitating grief support groups. Now, I’m ready to use my knowledge and experience to help teens and young adults overcome grief so that they can live their fullest life without the debilitating pain after the death of a parent weighing them down.
What about the ending to my story?
Fast forwarding to today, and I can talk openly about grief and my experiences throughout my grief story without putting up walls of defense…
I have a renewed relationship with my daughter and I’m able to bring the best pieces of my mom with me and forgive the worst pieces…
I’m able to live a beautiful life with my husband and two kids and remember my mom without grieving deeply…
I can wake up in the morning with joy and ready to experience the day after grief, and so can you.
Interested in working with me?
DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed therapist or physician. I am a non-licensed grief coach that supports grievers by guiding and coaching them through their grief journey. In no way do my services replace those of licensed healthcare professionals, nor should it. If you feel like you need additional services than the ones I can provide as a non-licensed grief coach, than please see your primary care physician for recommendations on professional healthcare services. If you or someone you know is in immediate danger please contact SAMHSA immediately: 1-800-662-HELP (4357). Thank you for your understanding.